If You Are Hiv Positive, Should You Have a Baby?

For many couples, the desire to have a baby is often overwhelming. But when one parent is Hiv positive, the need to protect the child becomes an marvelous concern as well.

So, you can just imagine the struggles or sufferings of these couples to reconcile the desire for motherhood in relation to being Hiv positive.

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Five years ago, I had a colleague who was Hiv distinct but she still insisted on getting pregnant. During one of our coffee breaks, she related to me the torment she had to endure when received the news that she was Hiv positive, especially in relation to her lifelong dreams of having a baby one day.

Everything was thrown out of the window, so to speak and getting pregnant was put in the back burner because she was told that the longest she could live was for someone else 12 years. But eventually, the thoughts about having a baby crept back and she begun asking questions like - are there citizen with Hiv and yet have general Hiv-negative babies?

The view that she may passed on the Hiv to her kid was there, of procedure but after combing information over cyberspace, she knew that there was a two per cent opportunity that her baby may turn up to be healthy and Hiv-negative. So, she was all for taking that risk.

But her neighbours, relatives and friends were indubitably against it. They basically all have the same message for her. 'What if you indubitably die in 12 years time, what is going to happen to your kid?'; 'What if you kid is also Hiv-positive, how is he and your house going to deal with this new burden?' 'How are you going to account for to your child that you knew very well from the start that the chances of him/her (kid) having Hiv was very great?'

Those psychological assaults were very hurting, of course, and she reflected upon it for a long time. She finally made the decision to have a baby by using the argument that general healthy folks also have risks in that they may give birth to children with birth defects and nobody can guarantee a excellent baby no matter the condition status of the parents.

Hence, she reckoned what she was doing was not a selfish one and took the plunge by working very intimately with her doctors.

So how did the story end for her. Well, the baby turned out okay, free of Hiv, but my ex-colleague is now in a financially and physically bad shape, having to go for treatment and all.

But till this day, she still held on to the belief that what she did was not an irresponsible activity but rather an informed choice.

If You Are Hiv Positive, Should You Have a Baby?

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